As a writer, am I not expected to have a book club? My READER’S CLUB enables me to share with you all the books, articles, journals etc that I am currently reading. I will also share the theme and how it is changing my life. What I learnt from the material and what I will do differently after the material. I will bring you guys in on all the fun. You ll love reading even more than ever before
You know how I feel about Janet Mock and how I feel about anyone that dares to be who they are in this crazy world that we live it. I do not understand how it feels to struggle with your gender but I am sure that I will not be judging anyone. I do not have to understand your struggle to respect it. That’s what this book means for me and I hope as you join me to read it, you begin to strip yourself off being judgmental.
I shared on instagram last week that I was picking this up. How many people read with me? I am so glad I read this book. I love her spirit, her experiences and her hustle.
“[a] warm, confiding memoir.” (VOGUE)
“It’s so good, you’ll want to take notes.” (PEOPLE)
“Diane’s book evokes everything she has lived through. It is honest, direct and fascinating — just like the author herself!” (Anna Wintour)
“In this era when girls are made to think it’s better to be a princess than a person, Diane von Furstenberg’s The Woman I Wanted to Be is just the reverse. I thank her for honesty, spirit, encouragement to be one’s own self in public and professional life, and a memoir that covers more human experience than most novels. Pick it up — you won’t put it down.” (Gloria Steinem)
“Diane von Furstenberg’s story offers a behind-the-scenes look into the ups and downs of building a global business, creating an enduring brand, and finding true love. By sharing the path that enabled her to become the woman she wanted to be, Diane shows all of us how to live a life of focus and passion.” (Sheryl Sandberg)
“Diane is the original modern princess who created the iconic wrap dress and has influenced fashion everywhere with her talent, lifestyle, elegance and beauty. Every girl will love reading her book.” (Kate Moss)
“It has been a gift to read this book, and a true privilege to learn and discover that much more about DVF. What a thrill to be given an opportunity to peek even further into her life.” (Sarah Jessica Parker)
“The legendary designer Diane von Furstenberg has a lot in common with her iconic wrap dress: practical yet sexy, demure yet revealing, sturdy yet fragile. This memoir is an intriguing page turner filled with her revelations about life, business, family and love. Fearless about naming names and probing her own failings, she analyses a ‘little fling’ with Richard Gere as sincerely as she does her midlife retreats from the fashion area—and her dynamic comeback. Her core philosophy? ‘Turn negatives into positives and be proud to be woman.’ She emerges, at 67, as a witty and reflective grownup, albeit one with plenty of surprises up her beautifully draped sleeve.” (MORE)
“. . . an honest an introspective look into the labyrinthine history behind one of the most iconic female entrepreneurs in fashion. Written in elegant yet straightforward prose . . . The designer candidly speaks of missteps and periods of her life which guided her away from what she truly wanted out of her life, and how she dealt with each situation, with grace and aplomb.” (Bustle.com)
“Diane von Furstenberg’s life combines the hallmarks of a fairy tale with the more sober reality of a career woman—and single mother—who longs to have it all. . . . The book is as charming and erratic as von Furstenberg herself . . . the early pages paint a vivid picture . . . her account of those first years is colorful and poignant.” (Finanacial Times)
“[N]ow I find Diane the super person that folks are most curious about. Diane never let herself fail at anything; or if she faltered, she climbed back up. It is a pleasure to read a ‘positive’ book that is not just manufactured nonsense . . . We get a real look at a woman in her 60s who’s still in her prime. She has a lesson for all of us.” (Worcester Telegram)
“von Furstenberg’s candid memoir contains hard-earned wisdom that she eagerly shares with women of all ages and backgrounds. A fascinating read for anyone interested in the behind-the-scenes world of contemporary fashion.” (Booklist)
“In this captivating memoir, fashion powerhouse von Furstenberg thoughtfully reflects on her colorful life—and doesn’t skimp on the juicy details. Von Furstenberg begins movingly by writing of her need to please her mother . . . then moves on to her life as a jet-set princess and fledgling designing in New York City, her invention of the iconic jersey wrap dress in the early 1970s, and stories of her children . . . She outlines her many positive contributions to the fashion industry, but admirably doesn’t sugarcoat business missteps . . . This is a fascinating glimpse into the life of one of the fashion world’s more enduring stars that will fascinate fashionistas and fans of strong, creative women.” (Publishers Weekly)
“With humility and honesty, von Furstenberg’s reflections on a life lived in the grandiose couture spotlight will delight both trendy, fashion-forward readers and budding designers eager to follow in her footsteps.” (Kirkus Reviews)
“No stranger to the spotlight DVF’s most recent venture, a book entitled The Woman I Wanted to Be chronicles how privilege opened certain doors in her early success, how much is still needed to be done to achieve equality, an insight into the behind-the-scenes ups and downs of running a global business and a story that is in equal parts wisdom, sobering reality and fairy tale.” (Los Angeles Fashion)
“Designer Diane von Furstenberg’s life reads like a fairy tale. She details it all with sincerity and humility in this memoir.” (Pittsburgh Post-Gazette)
“an inspiring, compelling, deliciously detailed celebrity autobiography, the book is as much of a smashing success as the determined, savvy, well-intentioned woman who wrote it.” (Chicago Tribune)
About the Author
Diane von Furstenberg entered the fashion world in 1970 and four years later introduced her famous wrap dress. Her luxury fashion brand, DVF, is now available in more than fifty-five countries all over the world. Director of the Diller-von Furstenberg Family Foundation, she is an active philanthropist and supporter of emerging female leaders and social entrepreneurs. In 2015, she was named one of the Time 100 Most Influential People. She is the author of The Woman I Wanted to Be and Diane: A Signature Life.
There was a time when I read one book per week but these days I m running around like a crazy person and can only read a few pages before I go to bed. However, this book is so “strange”, almost like and out of body experience I have no other way of explaining it.
With a compassionate realism and narrative sweep that recall the work of Charles Dickens, this magnificent novel captures all the cruelty and corruption, dignity and heroism, of India. The time is 1975. The place is an unnamed city by the sea. The government has just declared a State of Emergency, in whose upheavals four strangers–a spirited widow, a young student uprooted from his idyllic hill station, and two tailors who have fled the caste violence of their native village–will be thrust together, forced to share one cramped apartment and an uncertain future. Continue reading
By Leo Babauta
Let’s say you’re feeling unmotivated, unsure of yourself, aimless, can’t find your passion, directionless, not clear on what your purpose in life is.
You’re in good company — most people are in the same boat.
Now, there about a million things online telling you how to find your passion in life, and that’s a good thing. It’s a search worth undergoing. Continue reading
When Conscious Capitalism was published a year ago, the ideas that it contained were considered radical by many. Among the most radical—and underscored in the subtitle of the book—is our strong belief in the heroic nature of business, its essential virtues, and its extraordinary potential to do more good for more people in a sustained Continue reading
Hi guys, it’s Friday and can i just say I m super excited for the weekend. Lots of fun stuff planned both for work and play.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. hmmmmmm! I needed a deep breadth before continuing.
So, everyone I knew seemed to have read this book but me. In fact, whenever matchmakers or marriage counselors tried to make a point about love, compatibility etc. in any relationship, they referred to this book. I almost felt like I was doing myself a disservice by not having read this book, and can i tell you- I WAS! Continue reading
I think you guys will love this book as much as I am beginning to. I haven’t read the entire material but it’s awesome so far. Let me know what you think.
In allowing himself to be swept along this path, Ted had become ensnared in a series of very bad habits. In his case, these all involved procrastination, which got me thinking: Could the psychological mechanisms that were derailing Ted’s productivity also explain why I had failed to follow my regimen of guitar playing? Had the path of least resistance led me astray? I thought back to that initial experiment. I had kept my guitar tucked away in the closet, out of sight and out of reach. It wasn’t far out of the way, of course (my apartment isn’t that big), but just those 20 seconds of extra effort it took to walk to the closet and pull out the guitar had proved to be a major deterrent. I had tried to overcome this barrier with willpower, but after only four days, my reserves were completely dried up. If I couldn’t use self-control to ingrain the habit, at least not for an extended period, I now wondered: What if I could eliminate the amount of activation energy it took to get started?
Clearly, it was time for another experiment. I took the guitar out of the closet, bought a $2 guitar stand, and set it up in the middle of my living room. Nothing had changed except that now instead of being 20 seconds away, the guitar was in immediate reach. Three weeks later, I looked up at a habit grid with 21 proud check marks.
What I had done here, essentially, was put the desired behavior on the path of least resistance, so it actually took less energy and effort to pick up and practice the guitar than to avoid it. I like to refer to this as the 20-Second Rule, because lowering the barrier to change by just 20 seconds was all it took to help me form a new life habit. In truth, it often takes more than 20 seconds to make a difference—and sometimes it can take much less—but the strategy itself is universally applicable: Lower the activation energy for habits you want to adopt, and raise it for habits you want to avoid. The more we can lower or even eliminate the activation energy for our desired actions, the more we enhance our ability to jump-start positive change.
I have heard alot about this book and I have just begun to read it. It’s by a Nigerian writer, I am a Nigerian writer, duh!. I do think it’s a must read though. Wanna join in the fun? Grab it and tweet me about it.
One of The New York Times Book Review’s Ten Best Books of the Year
From the award-winning author of Half of a Yellow Sun, a dazzling new novel: a story of love and race centered around a young man and woman from Nigeria who face difficult choices and challenges in the countries they come to call home. Continue reading
Thrive is The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder and is written by Arianna Huffington.
I am beyond blown away by this woman. Whenever I see a hardworking woman trying to juggle her life as a career person, mother amidst other things, I am blown away. Not only am I impressed by this woman, but also by the message in this book. Her message simply put is that contrary to what people believe, money and power do not define us as successful. See her interview with Mark Hyman of the New York Times below. #amazeballs Continue reading
I love reading alot as most of you already know. This week on Oprah’s book club we are reading Bread & Butter
By Michelle Wildgen, I think you guys will love it too,It’s a bit different than the typical books I would suggest but i like it, hence the sharing. Talk to me about it on twitter @jennifermairo
336 pages; Doubleday
Available at: Amazon.com | Barnes & Noble | iBookstore | IndieBound
Restaurant life is famously grueling, with its long hours, financial ups and downs, and rigid pecking order reminiscent of the military, not to mention the necessity of doing a lot of thinking (and standing) on one’s feet. Bread & Butter (Doubleday), Michelle Wildgen’s wildly entertaining third novel, offers a behind-the-scenes view of this culinary cosmos, where a misfired plate might prompt a public tongue-lashing, and competition between restaurants can all but unravel a family. In a struggling Pennsylvania town, brothers Britt and Leo have established Winesap, their just-upscale-enough eatery, as a profitable presence on the local food scene. Which makes the nearby restaurant venture undertaken by their younger brother, Harry, something of a slap in the face: “People are going to compare us, whether it makes any sense or not,” sighs Thea, Winesap’s executive chef, upon hearing the news. As Harry’s pan-crisped socca with baccalà and arugula squares off against Britt and Leo’s venison with salty pistachio brittle, comparisons do arise—and tempers flare. Against this backdrop of brothers-on-brother combat, Wildgen serves up romantic intrigue (Leo unwisely falls for Thea, and Britt for a regular named Camille, whom Harry also has his eye on), along with a generous dollop of satire as sharp as a prep knife. The result is a novel that’s as much about the complex dance of family dynamics as it is about the mysterious world behind the kitchen door—and a divinely delicious read, to boot.
— Katie Arnold-Ratliff
The actress, who lends her voice to the Shrek spin-off, Puss in Boots, zeroes in on what makes her strive to reach her goals.
People often ask me if I have a role model—another actress I admire, or someone in my life I aspire to be like. For years I wasn’t sure how to answer. But when the question came up again recently, I finally realized that I’ve always been most moved by the women in my family who never became what they could have, who were magnificent in so many ways but who didn’t get to live to their full potential.
My grandmother was energetic and fearless—a talented poet and songwriter. She was also interested in chemistry and history and medicine, taking care of the people in her hacienda in Mexico, delivering babies. She could have become anything, but this was the 1930s, and she was forced into an arranged marriage. When she finally got the courage to leave her husband and move to Mexico City, she found it difficult to begin a career—there was so much prejudice against women, even in the big city.
My mother, too, had to put aside her dreams. She wanted to be a singer, but that was looked down upon in the society she grew up in. She told herself she wasn’t good enough, and married and had children instead of studying music. She didn’t work to develop her extraordinary voice until later in life. If she had studied earlier, maybe she could have been the next Maria Callas.
When I started acting, I was told over and over again, “You’re no good.” But I said to myself, You’ve got to keep it up. I see now that the experiences of my mother and grandmother inspired me profoundly. Thinking about them impacts every aspect of my life—including how I raise my daughter, Valentina. I want my little girl to tell me who she is so I can encourage her, and not impose my desires for her on her life. I want her to dream big and to know that if she is willing to earn it, she can have anything—and become anything.
I realize now that I’ve hoped to be great—as an actress, as a mother—because I want to embody the greatness of women who didn’t get to be all they could have been. Their dignity, their courage, and their brilliance make me strive to be better. They’re a part of me. So any accomplishment I get to have is a little bit of an accomplishment for them, too.
In today’s world, bullying isn’t just about teasing or picking on peers at school, Rabbi Shmuley says. Bullying among children today can turn violent and even deadly. And, girls are just as likely as boys are to bully and be bullied, he says. So, what’s the cause for this mean-spirited behavior, and how can parents stop it? Rabbi Shmuley offers his insight and advice
Why Children Bully Each Other:
Children today are more aggressive. Rabbi Shmuley says children are emulating the violent video games, TV shows and movies they’re exposed to.
Marriages today are weak. Many parents fight with each other, and Rabbi Shmuley says children absorb their aggression. “Here is the other thing—when you spend your time battling your spouse, you are going to have little energy left to discipline your kids, and he may become a bully,” he says.
Children today are angry. “They rage against their parents’ neglect; thunder against their parents’ indifference,” he says. “As their parents ignore them more and more, they feel resentful, so they look for victims around them to take out their aggression.”
Children today are being bullied by parents. “Parents themselves are overworked and tired,” Rabbi Shmuley says. “Rather than inspiring their kids with heart-to-heart conversations, they bark orders at them, find constant criticism and the child passes on the bullying.”
Solutions to Help Children Deal with Bullies:
Never show fear before the bully. “Don’t respond to him, but don’t run from him,” Rabbi Shmuley says. “Just go about your normal business as if he or she is not there.”
Make it clear to the bully that you will report her. “When the bully says, ‘You’re a crybaby and tattletale,’ be firm and say, ‘I told you I am going to report you [to a teacher]. I am not afraid of you, and I don’t care what you say,'” Rabbi Shmuley says.
Report the bully. “Go straight to the teacher and, better, to the principal,” he says. “Also, go home and tell your parents.”
Don’t bully back. “Your child does not have to demonstrate that he can be equally intimidating because, in the process, he will lose his innocence,” Rabbi Shmuley says. “Rather, teach your child to stand up to the bully [by reporting him or her to a teacher].”
Parents need to follow-up. Call the school and make sure the teacher or principal knows you will not tolerate your child being bullied. “If you feel the teacher or principal is not taking you seriously, go to the school board,” Rabbi Shmuley says. “Do not put your kid in an environment where they are going to be harmed. You are the parent—you are the one who is ultimately responsible for [your child’s] well-being.”
“There is absolutely no place for bullying in our schools. Children must be taught to report a bully immediately and never to fear retaliation. Parents must teach their children to stand up to a bully but never to become one—even to protect themselves. Principals and teachers who don’t take bullying seriously should be relieved of their duties.”