Can My Step Kids Make Me Miserable In My Marriage?
This from a jennsinnerspace reader. She wanted me to advice her on the current situation in her marriage. She is at her last leg and can’t take it anymore. Here’ what she wrote below;
Dear Jenn, hope everything is fine, I am writing because I want your take on the current situation in my marriage. Please give me your honest opinion.
My husband had two kids before we got married, I knew that but I didn’t think it would be a problem. They were only 6 and 8- babies (i thought)
Fast forward five years after our marriage, I have two kids of my own and my step children now live with us. I never knew that they would live with me eventually. My husband never created that impression. In fact, he had said that their mother would never allow them live with “his wife”. Now I am stuck with two children who want to frustrate all my efforts. My husband will not listen to me and believes in his mind that I am being mean to them. Something as normal as getting them to gather their toys, or arrange their clothes has ended up in huge fights between myself and my husband. Now I almost feel that the kids now feel that they have some power over him. I have left the house twice because of this, If this continues, I am afraid that I will not be able to stay in this marriage. There is nothing I haven’t and don’t do for these children. My marriage was peaceful before they arrived. I know in my heart that I love them. What do I stand to gain from being wicked towards them? I can’t tell you too much, but overall, what is the best advice you have for me?